A Cynics View on Valentine's Day

I was never one to enjoy celebrating holidays. Don't get me wrong when Christmas or Thanksgiving come along I'm chilling with my kids with the whole dinner layout.

Yet for most holidays I feel like I'm being forced (by marketing and ad agencies) to be kind and generous.

I'd rather celebrate good qualities like kindness, compassion and love everyday rather than when card and flower companies tell me to do so.

And damn it, I'll eat chocolate everyday not just on Valentine's, Easter and Christmas.

I LOVE celebrating everyday. Is that bad?

I'd prefer to give love everyday. Or give a gift on some random day when my loved one is not expecting it.

I'm sure people giving flowers and having dinner with their honeys today do show how much they care any random day. I do hope so.

I hope I'm not coming across as a cynical, cold-hearted bitch. I guess I just don't like when I feel like corporations run my life.

Don't let my "Debbie Downer" attitude stop you from spending a wonderful day with your sweetie. Remember he/she wants YOU more than any card or bouquet of flowers or chocolate bar. (Ok, maybe she wants the chocolate bar more sometimes, lol.)

Peace and love to everyone who happens upon this post.

Further reading

How Hallmark Invented Valentine's Day

7 fake, annoying holidays brought to you by consumerism (really? National Mustard Day?)

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